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Originally Posted by TayQuincy
I think i would have taken that as a question on how I saw my life or what she was hearing from me and not as a statement that my life was in fact meaningless.
I love my T, but she has said some things to me that were quite upsetting at the time.
She once said "I'm not going to listen to this!" OMG, yes I was crying and upset, but she's my T and I thought that is what she is there for..to listen!
I could probably think of more but generally I see my T as a fellow human who sometimes says things that are not helpful and sometimes even hurtful. I also think that interpretations can vary and we sometimes hear things differently than they were intended.
But Deli, your T's statements are pretty outrageous! Gosh, I would have been running for the hills!
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I had a feeling that someone will bring this issue.
How we interpretate things.
Yes, It was hurtful comments but I took it and I went home and thought about ways to make my life meaningful. The problem with her was that she wasn't even there to talk about how I was going to make my life meaningful. She clearly told me at the end of session that we must talk about that on the next session. For a whole week. I was in agony and looking forward so much to see her and talk about all the possibilities.
I waited at her office for half an hour. No one knew where she was nor my name was on her schedule. So there was mistrust and feel like I am not important and I felt so stupid that I was looking forward to see her and talk about meaningful life with her. It wasn't just that comment that hurt me. This is why counseling is so complicated...... and I am not strong enough to put up with situations like this.