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Originally Posted by Confused_1982 Why does no one like me. Why am I never good enough. Why does no one listen. Why does no one notice me. Why am I always alone and lonely. Why does no one take me seriously. What did I ever do to them to make them hate me. HOw much more can I take.

Starting with your last statement, Confused, as everyone below has already said, you are certainly not alone in feeling the way you do. The large majority in this forum have felt like that at one time or another, some all the time. Many have found their way out of the maze, and their examples and advice can help you if you pay close attention and work hard at it.

Then we get to your first paragraph, the "why" paragraph, and I'm going to make a guess. I would guess that you walk around "radiating" neediness, communicating neediness in your tone of voice, your body language, your facial expressions, what you actually say, your choice of conversational subjects, etc. I've been that way too. Guess what? Most people don't care for "needy" people. Most people believe they have enough problems of their own and are just not willing to take on someone else's (except for us here and therapists).

I think that until you give up your neediness, you're going to have a socially rotten time. And you don't really NEED your neediness; you're an adult, not a baby. Sure, it's nice to have friends on whom you can rely, frequent positive feedback, smiles from strangers, etc. But YOU'LL GET THEM when you lose your neediness. Paradoxical, eh? Try to go around with a smile and when you meet people, ask yourself what THEY need, and give it to them! A pat on the back? A word of encouragement? A serious listen to their current problem? Then they'll be there for you.