Our marriage had its ups and downs like any others, but we always seemed to get through. I thought things were going good when on 12/15/09 she woke up and said she didn't want to be with me anymore. Two weeks later I was served papers, she moved out, and our final court date is in May (the soonest date possible). She said she didn't want to be responsible for me, our children, or our grandchildren, she just wanted to be responsible for herself. She was searching for things to make her happy. A new car, pool, deck, landscaping, and remodel the house, all done in the last year. It was two weeks after I got the house done she dropped the bomb. I asked why do all this and walk away? She said "I thought that it was going to make me happy". I guess divorce was next on her list. I tried everything I could think of to stay and get help but she had her mind made up. Our children don't understand, they told me she's 49 and acting like a teenager. She rarely communicates with the children (youngest is in college), when she does its text or short email (business) never calls to talk to them. They have no interest in seeing or talking to her. Why would someone leave the home we built together, 30 years of marriage, and all but abandon the children ? No emotions, no big deal for her. I know I have my faults and cannot put the blame on her, but you would think she would have at least tried. I think it could be some kind of midlife crisis. I noticed she spent a lot of time on Facebook and Classmates.com like she was trying to go back in time.
Meanwhile I'm 52 and my whole life fell apart. On top of the divorce I lost my 42 year old brother to brain cancer last year. I'm trying to keep it together for my children and grandchildren but I can't believe the pain. You never really understand the pain of divorce until you go through it. They say it gets better, but they don't say it gets worse too. Just when you think things are getting better you fall back to a new low. I really miss not having someone to share my life with and I can't imagine dating at my age. Is there hope?