On the "role playing" thing-- or telling an abuser how you feel or what they did to you....

I've been asked to try that-- and I couldn't do it.

I think it's because- I know in my heart that the abusers(the ones for me) think they didn't do anything wrong and if I spoke it would just be more invalidation....
I much rather have chosen to validate myself and have others support me that understand the wrongs and care about me.

not sure if I'm expressing myself the way I mean..... lets' see-- it's like pretending they(the abusers) are compassionate and WILL listen.... I just can't even entertain that idea at all..... it takes so much for me to even reach out that to be ignored/invalidated would be too much...... feel I can't risk that I guess.

anyway-- I hope when the time comes for you-- you do what you feel is best for you at that time.

Also-- It's so great that your T. was there for you yesterday. I'm glad he was able to help support you and keep you safe.

Good luck today.

fins