Mr burn, I had something similar said to me - I felt I was a series of roles but that I wasn't doing any of them for me but for others in my life, and she said I was "a dead woman walking" - actually, that was exactly how I felt, so I found it quite helpful. I knew my life was untenable as it was, that I couldn't keep on going without my life having some meaning for myself. Perhaps this was what your therapist meant?