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Old Apr 05, 2010, 08:37 PM
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Originally Posted by theave View Post
Mr burn, I had something similar said to me - I felt I was a series of roles but that I wasn't doing any of them for me but for others in my life, and she said I was "a dead woman walking" - actually, that was exactly how I felt, so I found it quite helpful. I knew my life was untenable as it was, that I couldn't keep on going without my life having some meaning for myself. Perhaps this was what your therapist meant?

I am going to repeat myself again.

Yes, It was hurtful comments but I took it and I went home and thought about ways to make my life meaningful. The problem with her was that she wasn't even there to talk about how I was going to make my life meaningful. She clearly told me at the end of session that we must talk about that on the next session. For a whole week. I was in agony and looking forward so much to see her and talk about all the possibilities.
I waited at her office for half an hour. No one knew where she was nor my name was on her schedule. So there was mistrust and feel like I am not important and I felt so stupid that I was looking forward to see her and talk about meaningful life with her. It wasn't just that comment that hurt me. This is why counseling is so complicated...... and I am not strong enough to put up with situations like this.