My t has told me i've made good progress, but has not specified what she's noticed.

As far as growth causing us to gravitate toward different sort of people, i think it means that we aren't drawn anymore to people who knowingly or unknowingly use or abuse us. We start having more self-confidence and indpendence, and we aren't willing to be treated so badly anymore.

Like with my former friend who invited me back into her life, I WANT to, but i am NOT going to. . .because i am learning it is not a healthy relationship for me. So that's a change for me. I'm looking for a different sort of friend now.