First of all, I am truly sorry that you are going through such a tough time right now. Anger is a pretty strong emotion. And if he hurt you, Im not surprised you'd feel that way or retaliate. But at the same time I do realize the devastating effect it can have on almost any situation when it gets out of control. So its almost as if you feel like you can't win.

But really, I know you can. Since the divorce was so recent, time will do wonders early on to carry you through the worst of it. But sometimes if Im overwhelmed by a certain emotion or something I just feel like I can't control, Ill immediately stop what Im doing and just allow my mind to clear. Almost like a quick meditation session. As if Im allowing the anger, sadness, whatever to just flow out of me. It works wonders for anger for me, personally. Just because anger feels like such a physical, intrusive emotion.

Some slow, easy breathing helps too. Try to picture something that will bring you joy. Keep trying to see the positive. Sometimes to keep control, we just need to take it slow and easy. Try to imagine yourself in a protective barrier and let anything that makes you want to lash out fly off of it.

Keep your environment calm also, if possible. Dedicate a place you can go to just to cool off if at any point something triggers the anger again.

As for the pain of the divorce, just keep trooping forward and remember that better and more brighter opportunities will come! I am very sorry that you have been hurt and if you need anyone to vent to, feel free to drop me a line or let me know if there is anything else that can be done. (: I wish you the best of luck and may peaceful times follow in abundance.