I would like to make one comment regarding humor....& glossing over anothers pain with it. I find that I try to use humor on myself most of the time. I find if I can see a humorous side to the situation, then I will be able to feel at least a little better.

The comment of "laughter is the best medicine" I have found to me very true for myself.....when I take myself too seriously, I become very miserable. Humor doesn't work all of the time & there are many times where is isn't appropriate at all.....but it is a defense mechanism that does work some of the time...& when it works oooooh can I feel much better. Sometimes people who use it themselves as their protection, don't always realize when it is appropriate or in-appropriate to use with others. It is a learning process for them too & possible something they don't even realize.

I know there are times when my husband will say some snide remark & laugh at himself for saying is. I sit there wondering what was so funny & why he is laughing at what he said when it was completely rude & totally inappropriate.

I think it is part of communication skills that we have to work on just like all the other techniques we learn over time.....when it is appropriate & when it isn't. Like it or not, this is an online educational place for us all to learn what & when & even to who, our comments are acceptable.

Yes, we need to care for each other & learn who can accept what type of responses from us, & sometimes learn to lighten up ourselves to possibly understand & maybe even possibly accept the responses we receive with understanding who they come from.

Debbie