this sounds like a tough situation. i can understand your boyfriend being really tired because he is a morning person, but to say "stop whining" seems kind of rude. i think it would be more helpful if he just told you he's extremely tired and got off the phone rather than falling asleep on you. you need to schedule your crises earlier in the evening.

i don't know if this would appeal to you at all but i call a prayer line. it's 1.800.4.PRAYER. they are there 24/7. they really are wonderful and compassionate and they do hear from God if you're into that sort of thing. it's a christian group and they will ask you if you are a believer, but if you tell them no you're not ready to make a decision but could you still have prayer i'm sure they would. i'm sure they'd be more than willing to pray for peace or anything else for you.