Mr Burn

I for one totally see what you’re saying and think it would be a real shame if you felt that you couldn’t talk about the negative things in therapy without having your feelings and personal experience criticized by others. Regardless of whether a T ‘really’ means things the way we perceive them, it’s our perceptions that matter.

For what it’s worth I’ve seen so many different Ts in my life and ended up being quite damaged by some of them precisely because I bought into the ‘oh it’s not them saying hurtful things it’s me misinterpreting’ dictate. This is not to say that it’s not well worth discussing with T anything we’ve experienced as negative or hurtful.

What strikes me as more hurtful and damaging to you is the way your T wasn’t there for your next appointment. THAT is most definitely not a ‘misinterpretation’ on your part! Did you get to see her again, and how did it go?