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Originally Posted by Mike_J
Solving those two problems would no doubt help but I wouldn’t assume that there is some magic way to get rid of those sorts of thoughts. Financial security is great to have, and a very reasonable goal, but you are always going to have relationship problems, or problems because you don’t have any relationships.
I think you need to deal with why you are linking these issues, are you in therapy?
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In a sense. My finances only allow me to see a therapist for 20 minutes every other month. I have no insurance. I agree with you as to the relationships issue. If that isn't solved, I'm just not going to get anywhere. I have been able to avoid it all my life, but I can't anymore. My situation is forcing me to deal with issues that are long-buried and (to me) still terrifying. Personally, I'm convinced these are devpsych issues that go all the way back. (Actually, reading this over, I think that's a red herring.) I STILL waste lots of time doing things other than trying to get closer to the basis of these issues. I wonder if there is more than one way to do this, other than trying to figure out what went wrong 64 years ago. Cognitive doesn't work for me. I tried it. Obviously, I'm not a trained professional, so any of my own attempts or ideas are going to be pretty ad hoc. I do have the feeling that if I concentrate on today's relationships I might get somewhere. The resistance to doing so is immense, and that's one of the reasons I think that's the way to go. Any ideas?
Thanks for your help!