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Originally Posted by WePow
This post shows how vital it is to ask T to clarify things which may harm us.
1) If the T did say what we think T said - and it does harm us - then the T is not the right match for us. It does not make T a bad T - it just means the style or personality is not a proper fit for healing. The client then has the responsibility to search for another T.
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I think this is true for the client who has enough ego strength ("self-confidence") to do this sort of thing. Some do not. Some have been so badly damaged at an early age, been told continuously that they are worthless, that they cannot do this. I was one of those "clients". I did not have the inner self-confidence to do this, to believe that I might be right and the "authority" might be wrong. As a result there was a tremendous amount of damage that resulted from things my therapist said, and which I took into myself. I tried to cope with it, but failed. It has taken me decades to work myself (partially) out of this.