I hope this thread isn't locked. Therapy can be quite ugly - even good therapy. Mistakes can have a ripple effect and grow. People need to talk about them. Of course, if the therapist is open to criticism, or when a client says "when you said this, it hurt me", then that is optimal.

My T, who is really good, has said some and done pretty wild things to me over the years.

One time at the end of a really hard session he told me that I had to suck it up we met again.

Another time, I went to the office and the door was locked (abandonment issues!) He laughed when I told him that it upset me.

Another time when I was in the waiting room a gentleman that I worked with walked out of my T's office and right past me. Didn't really want anyone to know I was in therapy at work. I asked my therapist to reschedule me, or the gentleman. My T assured me it wouldn't happen again and there was no need to reschedule. The very next week, out walks the guy I work with. My therapist's response? "These things happen"....

These are just a few in recent memory. I'm sure that there are others. The important thing though is I told my therapist about them and we worked through it. When he is wrong, he apologizes and, if necessary, takes steps to correct the problem. He makes sure that I feel heard.

Mistakes, hurts and misunderstandings are a part of therapy. I think it is part of our work as clients to look at the therapy as a whole, try to evaluate the mistakes as objectively as we can, and decide if the good far outweighs the bad. It's not easy, but it is skill that translates to relationships outside of therapy.