Hi Piggy,

Yes, I agree with Sky. Living with other people's rule systems doesn't leave us much room to be easy on ourselves.

It is possible to learn a whole new moral framework (as I did) and reject the old imposed order, but it is not easy, and takes half a lifetime. When we reject a discipline system that we know is wrong and cruel, then we lose the approval that we would have had from those people (for what it's worth).

I now live by a system of kindness to others, and I know right to my heart that this system is right. I never feel that I have to forgive myself for being kind to others.

Cheers, M