Rainbow,

I think ACCEPTANCE is the key word. Accepting that you're going to have feelings for her. . .accepting that she can't be "everything" for you. . .and accepting the relationship for what it is now. Since you see her occasionally in your real life because she's a member of your shared religious community, complete avoidance probably isn't possible. That's why i think acceptance is the key. Sitting with your feelings, sitting with the experience, validating that your emotions and needs are real, but also accepting that it's not always possible or healthy to have everything we want.