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Originally Posted by Mike_J
Solving those two problems would no doubt help but I wouldn’t assume that there is some magic way to get rid of those sorts of thoughts. Financial security is great to have, and a very reasonable goal, but you are always going to have relationship problems, or problems because you don’t have any relationships.
I think you need to deal with why you are linking these issues, are you in therapy?
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Well, financial security permits me to avoid dealing with the underlying truths about my relationship problems. That's one reason for linking them. It has done so all my life. I've always put up with a substantial reduction in achievements and living standard in order to avoid the foundations of the relationships problem. But I've never before been in a situation where my back was against the wall in the way it is now.
My personal view is that at no time in life after the age of 3 or 4 does the intensity of one's emotions even barely reach the operatic highs attained in very early childhood. Nor, of course, is one ever again as dependent. Something way back then was so awful, so painful and terrifying, that it got buried very, very deeply. One of my questions now is whether or not I have to dig the whole thing out or can somehow relieve the pressure without doing major historical research.
Thanks for your help.