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Originally Posted by Ygrec23
I do have the feeling that if I concentrate on today's relationships I might get somewhere. The resistance to doing so is immense, and that's one of the reasons I think that's the way to go. Any ideas?
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Going with your gut can't be a bad place to start.
You might consider identifying each one of "today's relationships," analyzing each relationship, analyzing your position in them, and your emotional response to them. Using formal and informal labels to get some personal distance from the relationships could help neutralize their emotional effects.
In the past,
Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships by Eric Berne, based on the principles of Transactional Analysis, provided a popular parsing guide to the interactions you may be facing. Of course, something newer and flashier may have supplanted it.
However you go about it, Ygrec23, I hope you'll be able to master your relationships rather than be mastered by them.
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