hurtandconfused, your husband's month of sobriety is certainly a good sign, particularly if he was previously a frequent/daily drinker. I would also recommend AA. I realize that there are many reasons why he would prefer not to go to these meetings, but if alcohol is truly a problem for him [e.g. if he is a binge drinker and is simply between binges, trying to please you], he could benefit greatly from the atmosphere and support of others who know the problem from a personal prospective. Perhaps he would be willing to try a few meetings for educational purposes, i.e. if he believes that he is not alcoholic, perhaps information and experiences shared at meetings would help him to decide one way or another. Generally speaking, AA meetings are different that what one would expect. I do congratulate your husband mightily on his sobriety this past month and wish both of you the very best ~ a friend in recovery ~ billieJ