I dont understand why a thread such as this one should get locked. When I first read that I thought that it sounded a bit controlling. Who is getting hurt by sharing unpleasant experiences in therapy? Maybe a trigger icon?

I learned A LOT from my negative experiences with desk-t and I also still do not like to fathom why I stayed so long. I consider myself pretty good at reading people, except when they play a role in the family drama I grew up with and then I will stay to work out those painful feelings. That is what happened to me in therapy with her. There are a milioin things I could post that she said to me and although I understand why I stayed, I am bewildered by the fact that I didnt realize that her comments and behavior were inappropriate until I started on PC and understood that she shouldnt be saying and doing what she was.

The whole thing makes me nlot trust myself and my perceptions. She seemed like she had it so together. She was dressed to the hilt and had a cool, distant demeanor. And a piece of furniture as a "boundary". My drama was to get warmth from a rock. And it still hurtts and I cant get this stupid woman out of my head. My current T says she is a "medium" between me and my mother. In other words, she is as narcissistic as my mother was and i picked that up and instead of remmebering that I wanted love from my mother, I only remember how this therapist hurt me. My current T says she never ever says anything disparaging about another T, but in this instance she does since her colleagues also have told her about this T. Her inappropriateness is so overwhelming.

I am saying this here b/c I think rather than the specifics of what she (meaning my T) said, and I can blah blah blah forever about it, what is more imporant is why it hurt me so deeply and who she was/is to me. She is the abusive, invalidating, narcissistic family I grew up with. And I was there in therapy with her for 1 yr 5 mo to try to re-do/undo that damage. It does on some level help to repeat the stories to get the validation that it wasnt normal behavior for a therapist, but where to go from there? Story after story? The healing is in understanding why I was there and why I am so hurt. And angry.