Damo4578, Im so sorry your having such a difficult time, Sounds like some serious stuff, Im not the best at relationship advice, but i will try. You asked about ending the relationship? Have you sat with her and discussed with her why its not working? You said that you can see that staying in this relationship is not good for either of your sake, that you have had many ups and downs? Maybe she sees these too? But is scared to admit theres a prob?Its noble of you because you care about her to try and do this gently,because if shes fragile, breaking up with someone is hard, so your doing the right thing. Im not sure theres a perfect way to break up with someone, esp if your worried she may harm herself or you ?Has she ever indicated that she would hurt herself or you? Does she still go to Therapy, Therapy may help her deal with the prospect of a breakup, I had a friend who was similiar and therapy really helped her after her bf and her broke up.Just try and let her down gently explaining that while you care for her, its better to end it now rather than prolong the fighting until it gets worse and any care you had for the other person turns bitter, Let her know you care about her, what happens to her, and that you want to stay her friend. Thats its better for you both in the long run, Because if you stay theway you are now, you will just be hurting each other and you dont want that.