What Lynn said

I'm in my early 20s and never been in a relationship. I decided early on that sex outside of a loving relationship, and drugs/alcohol to block out my pain were'nt a good idea for me personally. At the time my friends thought I was "wierd" or a lesbian as I never had a boyfriend, and at the time I did feel "wierd" because it was never as big a deal for me as it was for them. They needed a bf to complete them, to feel good about themselves. They think 'I've got a bf therefore I must be attractive'. I saw friend after friend lose their virginity to some guy they didn't even like so they could feel 'adult'/part of the 'I've had sex club' They didn’t even enjoy it!...And do you know what?! I feel sorry for them. While they "pity" me for still being single, I pity them for not knowing that they are worth more than the sum of their relationships/sexual experiences. You do not need a bf or to conform to societies' stereotypes of typical teenage behaviour. Concentrate on being YOU.

Now I realise that's all well and good saying it, but it sucks actually being isolated & feeling 'different' from your peers. I've been there. In my case I 'outgrew' my school friends and found new & better ones in Uni who aren't so bothered with appearances and how others view them. My old 'friends' are still stuck in their petty ways, while I've moved on. Life's too short to live it for someone else - life it for yourself!

*Willow*