Dear one,

I feel for you. I can so understand your emotions and state of mind.

My fiance (now ex) proposed about a year and a half ago, after 5 years of being together, and when it came to it - did not set a date and kept inventing reasons why to delay it. He gradually became more and more abusive. Until I had to leave. I left my home to be safe away from him. Its been 3 weeks and I find it hard but know I am doing the right thing and want to get on with my life.

Mark sounds like a guy who is not good for women. He cheated on you and betrayed and used you in such a way that I think there should be a law section that deems this unlawful. And maybe in some ways there is...

He does not deserve your time and love. And if you think he will be happy and have a healthy relationship with this new woman - you are wrong. He likes the thrill. The excitement. The novelty. When this wears off and his ego does not get petted that often anymore he will be looking for someone else to keep his Ego ok. So please stop worrying yourself. He is not worth it.

You are a wonderful, kind, beautiful woman. Please focus on yourself and accept that for a while it will be hard. But remember - that if you feel low and unhappy - its not necessaarily because you love him or because he is part of you. Its because you are hurt, you grieve, you miss the habit and overcome some dependency. Its a difficult process.

After 3weeks of not talking to my EX, he texted me yesterday. It completely threw me off, just when I thought I was doing better. I accept that I am recovering from trauma and its a process. I think you and me in the same shoes in this respect.

Rather than think - he proposed to her - think - lucky me that we never married. as bad as he was - he would have been 10 times worse had you been married. thats the nature of things.

I wish you well and sending you big hugs. I hope you love yourself well and beyond anything else my sweet xxx