Tatyana, by affair I mean, she broke her vow to me to forsake all others. She rekindled a relationship with an old boyfriend via facebook. She and he exchanged nude photos, had phone sex and she discussed our private life (or what I thought was private). The made plans to meet and have sex, he said he was going to "fill her up" and not use a condom.

She was pressuring him to leave his wife and kids so they could get married. I found all these transcripts of these conversations she had with her damn Blackberry messenger.

The thing is I dont always want to have that question in my mind "is she up to something?". That is not living and not a good marriage. We share a child together, but I wont stay with her just because of that. Its just hard to know when to walk away. Im a Christian man and took my vows seriously.