Thanks Gez. I believe you are right. I have decided to leave her alone. No it won't be easy. But here is what happened over the past week and a half. First I created an account of a fake woman and got in contact with the guy she cheated on me with. Ofcourse I used a photo of a female friend of mine who is very attractive in order to get his attention. Well it worked. He told me that he has a female friend who he met and they are like brother and siser. He also said she lives in his city and he was not attracted to her in terms of a relationship. I found out some good info and then discontinued the conversation. She finally came to visit me on Sunday. She had been promising over and over that she would come. When she came she pushed sex on me starting with oral sex and telling me, "I want to make this up to you." Then told me later, "I know for sure now that you are my husband". Well I put hickies on her neck, not on purpose but I did. Later I created an account with a guy using a fake picture and contacted her. Well, She responded. She was caught. She stated that she did live in his city. Then she called me. Apologizing and telling me how wrong I was for doing that. I told her I had found out what I needed t o. Then she gave me all the info assuming that I already knew. She moved in with him. They signed a lease together. He is seeing other women also. So the way I see it is they have some kind of open relationship. She wants him. But she is still in Love with me. They are gonna fight and fuss and it will end much worse than she and I. I know it. They have already had some. I am letting her go. I don't want to share her. And I am giving too much of myself and my life away to this. It hurts. Yes. But she is a very needy woman for attention. I have given too much. I am going to work on me. But I will continue to stay on the board for support. Thanks to all of you.