I dated this guy for about 2 years and recently broke up because I was confused. I divorced over six years ago (I married young) and ended a relationship to a man I was totally smitten about over 3 1/2 years ago. I met the "nice guy". Everyone else prior to that was somewhat of a bad boy. The nice guy was great! He treated me like a princess, was cute, didn't have any major hang ups and accepted me for who I was 100%. I have never met anyone like him in my entire life. I never felt the spark the butterflies...nothing. I felt a sense comfort, belonging and slow evolving feeling I can not point my finger on. I could do no harm in the eyes of "Mr. Nice Guy"...I was perfect in every which (to him) that you can imagine. He even put up with my confusion and brushed it off, he believed I was falling in love with him slowly and I am not too sure if he was right or not.

He didn't play games, was predictible, cooked and he liked my two kids. He too had two kids, but had visitation rights. He was great dad. Okay what bothered me the most about Mr. Nice Guy, I HATED his wrinkles! He was in his late 30's and he had wrinkles like someone much older only he didn't look it (he was cute). I also hated that he was skinny, but he has gained some weight since. He was skinny since he was a child. I know it sounds superficial, but I can't help it. Our intimate moments were good...no problems in that department, BUT I can't shake this feeling that I may not be "IN" love with him! It drove me so crazy that I ended the relationship. I wasn't bored of him or anything like that. We had fun when we were together. I am just so haunted of stories from my relatives/friends of people who have married someone who was a "good man" only to be miserable because they weren't "in" love with him...

Can you really fall "IN" love with someone?