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Apr 09, 2010, 11:58 AM
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Member Since: Sep 2007
Location: Colorado
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I'm glad for this post because it explains part of what's going on with me right now. I can be happy, I really can. I go out with a friend or my boyfriend and have a good time. But lately I've been sleeping more, being messy not getting things done etc.
I'd like to respond to one thing you said:
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Originally Posted by muse
And I guess.... I'm working really hard at being happy.  I SHOULD be, and I'm plowing through the difficult stuff as best I can, but it takes a lot of work to be happy when your world is turned upside down over the course of a week. Meh. |
SHOULD you be happy? What is should? Where does this idea of what you should be feeling come from? I think looking into that belief/feeling might help you a lot.
Also, I'm not sure if you can "work really hard at being happy". Don't get me wrong , you can DEFINITELY do things to improve your mood. But feelings are FEELINGS, we can't control them!
I believe you can do positive things to help, like get enough sleep, the right type of food, choose activities that you enjoy, hang out with positive friends (and your GF I'm sure  ), etc. But you can't say "I'm going to be happy now and I'm going to try REAAAALL hard to get there!" Keep that in mind as you go through your day - if your meds aren't working right that's something too!
Also, try not to fell feel pressured to be happy. Everyone, not just the depressed, suffer from feelings of sadness at some point. There is no emotional "norm" - your mood WILL fluctuate. So enjoy the happy times when they come, experience the bad when they come. You can't change them. You CAN change how you react to them and how you set up your environment (hopefully in a way that makes you happier  )
Hope this wasn't too out there, just my thoughts. Take gentle care.
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Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.
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