Atreyu - it takes a lot of work to stay with alters when they come out. Oh boy does it take work. But you can do it. The thing that was the most helpful for me was to honor the alters and thank them for what they did to keep me safe when I needed it. There is a reason your alter has that tone. Somehow, it protected you at one time.

The thing to do is to really work with your alters and find out why they are who they are. What purpose did they serve? For example, my Mick alter had an alter named Andy. He actually shoplifted as a teen. I could not control it at the time - and often did not even know I did it until I got home and found stuff! UGGG! What I learned in therpay was that Andy was the part of me that as a child was used by a friend's mom to shoplift stuff when she took us and her daughter to the store. I knew it was wrong but could not mentally deal with the conflict, so Andy was created to take care of that for us. He also was a smart mouth. And that was a part of his role - to just not care. Because I did care.

Get to know who you are - all of you. Alters are us. That is a fact. And that is a very wonderful thing to understand. They are also not the same as what we think we are. That is also for a reason. Honor all of you.