You say that you are an introvert. I am too. I think we put off an air of distance that others find hard to breach, even if they are interested. I found out 10 years after high school that everyone thought I was stuck up, but I went through h.s. thinking that everyone hated me and I was very shy. Perception makes all the difference in the world. I've found that if I relax around people and stop being so inward, people actually like me.

As for the work, I'm with Hippie - the economy is sooooo bad right now. It is also possible to be "distant" on paper. Do you have someone who could look over what you are sending out? Maybe you are inadvertently putting people off? I don't know anything about mediators in conjunction with lawyers, but I do know about writing. I'd be happy to look it over if you want to PM me.