Hi Ygrec,
I had a little chuckle when you said you're not 'wildly ugly' lol. You received some great answers so far. You know what I think would be a great idea - contact a 'life coach' - someone who is trained to look at the whole picture. You might only need a few sessions. If you can't afford this, then find a good honest friend or family member to give you their 'honest opinion' of how you come across. You might even video tape yourself, so you can watch yourself. How we see ourselves in the mirror doesn't give the whole picture, unless we see ourselves talking and the body language. I also agree the economy is terrible and this is why you're not getting any responses. I hope things look up for you soon.