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Old Apr 10, 2010, 06:30 PM
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Originally Posted by jexa View Post
She mostly just wasn't very "there with me" and that was my main beef with her, but occasionally she would say things that hurt me. One thing she said that still repeats in my head is "There you go again, Jessica. You're always judging, judging, judging." My current T says I do not come across as judgmental....
Sounds like your former T lapsed into judging you, at least that one time. I can see asking you if whatever you said felt or sounded judgmental to you, or even sharing that it did to her, but the "There you go again... you're always..." frame she put it in, fairly shouts that she has an investment in laying her own unacknowledged experience on you. I can picture her even getting a bit huffy if you didn't buy into it right away.
Thanks for this!
jexa