Kallenite- That sounds VERY much like the T I saw and just recently ran from. She saw things from a very personal perspective (as opposed to a theraputic one) which led to me feeling ridiculed, judged and embarrassed often. The tear comment to me sounds sarcastic and the kind of remark a T might make if she was completely burnt out and no longer cared how she hurt a client. Almost hostile. That was what I thought about my previous therapist, though my current T believes she she had some serious issues of her own that she had not dealt with.

Psychoanalyticgirl- I am not sure what to say about this remark. I suppose it would depend on your relationship with her, if there was some kind of issue around being/acting seductive, or if that is the way she perceives you to behave and she is pointing it out to you. But even not knowing enough information about her or you I woud think that is a weird thing to say. And she admitted she made some kind of an error in judgement. But, still, she doesnt seem to have explained herself to you and you are still not comfortable with what has been said. That seems weird.

You could bring this up to her again and ask her why she isnt responding to your question. Keep clarifying it to her and see how she handles it.