I read the article on grieving that BYZ left the link too helpful yet in some ways not since the MEN are still alive so there isn't really an end so to speak as I said in one post it might have been easier if he did die in some ways ...the relationship may have been able to go through a "grieving" "loss" period for however long and that piece in my heart although scared could heal but with him still alive and around and in my case my husband still,kind of what lynn says you are in limbo ...you need the marriage in some ways financially(me and her)I still love him (stupidly)and hopelessly hoping for that fairy tale ending I suppose...like the article says there isn't a magic pill ...

ANYONE UFOT GIVINGME enough DOPE slaps to cause permanant brain damage in the DAVID feelings dept. of my BRAIN Might Be an Option I am DESPERATE ...