I just read your post and I can sympathise with you. My ex was into drugs and alcohol and would get violent with me or even worse, his own mother. He stole from me, my son and his own family. We all got together to try and work out what we could do for him and we all decided that we would never lend him money or anything that would help him in his downfall. However, he latched onto some one else and told terrible untruths to people....... the bottom line or the end of the story is this, i kicked him out, his family dont speak to him and he is carrying on regardless!! He drifts from place to place and person to person in order to feed his habit. The main thing is this, as long as your husband realises that it was the chemicals that were doing the talking and not the person who had taken them!! Hope you get this sorted out, but you wont ever get your money back!!! Take care of you!!