TayQuincy,
I am still holding onto these words by Anderson, spoken in love, to in essence, all of us. I am working toward living in love and acceptance toward this part for saving my life, I'm holding onto that hope. I am going to ignore the fear that tells me I am alone, that I cannot be accepted. I am the victor not the victim. Yes, I had to suffer and am having to suffer while I sort it out but those that harmed me actually are the 'bad' dark wolves. They meet their end with their maker with all the crimes they perpetrated upon those of us who were unprotected children, teens and young adults. I thankfully could split to protect myself. One of my mottos is 'to life'! No more fear. I am going toward love for myself instead of condemnation of myself. Self care, inner strength and a sound mind. Me and my god and supportive others are helping me to do this.
I support you TayQuincy and I accept your parts here and if another protector had to come I accept that protector too. It's okay, it's is fine you and I are fine and anyone else too. When I was neglected and abused as a child there were protectors, that came internally and when help didn't come externally at that point there was a pattern established and new protectors came until finally the right help came by way of a caring, concerned, kind and knowledgeable therapist. There is a way out and I pray you can search till you find some help TQ.
All the Best,
Hunny
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Originally Posted by anderson
TayQuincy,
Each of us has a part that we wish did not exist. But Like Wepow and the others said. Your are still welcomed here and we will listen to you when you are ready to talk. And Most of all we will not judge you or your alters. This is a question that I/We had to ask our selfs many time. Are we bad no, Do we have alters that do things that we wish that they would not do? Yes. But when you are looking at this alter ask your self what was happening to your body when this alter was created. What has this alter endured for you so that you did not have to exsperience it. So please when you think that this alter only brings you shame think about the gift of space from abuse that this part has given to you. And most of all learn the simple fact of all the shame of abuse is not yours but those that chose to hurt you to find enjoyment in your pain. That is where the shame and the responsibilites lyes not with you or your alters. Now is the time to learn that they do not have to do the things they did to keep from being hurt worst.
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