I have to say that I am quite disgusted by what some of your T's have said and done.

But I would like to say this. Therapy is challenging. If your therapist always agreed with you and was perfect in everyway I really think you wouldn't get very far. I think we learn more from a flawed therapist. For therapy to work we need some transference. I know when I was in therapy I had some pretty heated discussions where my emotions were sparked by memories of a past abuser. T kind of took on the role of abuser (purposely) so that I could deal with some issues. Yucky horrible transference but it was worth doing. I don't think I thanked my T for it at the time but realized at a later date what was going on. I was with my T for 6 years, he was very flawed but because of that I was able to grow. I'm not saying you need to stay with a rude, incompetent therapist, I'm saying there will be one out there for you although they might not be perfect.

The other thing is I have doctoral level certs in motivational interviewing, in some of the techniques we use are to purposely act the baffoon. Ever heard of Columbo? The disheavelled police detective who is always so flippant and acts like the idiot. We use a technique called, 'Columbo-ing' which happens to be an excellent way to motivate people. Asking really (clever) stupid questions in order to help the client, boost self-esteem, let the client see the way forward.

But you know, if the therapist starts talking about his dikk then yeah, really you need to get the h*** out of there!