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Apr 11, 2010, 07:29 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: So Cal
Posts: 3,342
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I so get this. 
My T and I aren't working towards integration or blending at this point. We are still working towards getting more co-consciousness and cooperation between all our parts.
For the most part, our parts will cooperate with each other but often, when things get hard and bad stuff comes up in T one of our littles is pushed out and is the one left to explain it all. They push her out because they are scared and don't want to deal with it. T says that's not fair to our little one or any of our parts. Even though we agree, we can't figure out how to keep it from happening. It's really hard work. 
If they are saying they need/want to hide, there is a hurdle that they are having difficulty getting over. Be patient with them. Let them hide a bit if they feel safer and keep working on it in T. It will all smooth over in the end. Make sure that they all know that they are safe and that you love them all, and it's not about sending them away, but helping to make you all a closer family. 
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