I don't know about you but my friends don't betray me and if they did they wouldn't be my friend. If you want better you have to demand better from people or they will only give you left overs. Mark took advantage of you. Friends don't do that.

I think the loss of a relationship does go through a grieving process. The person may still be in your life but the relationship is dead. My ex is very much still in my life because we are co-parents. We worked at building our friendship back so that we could be the best parents we could be. He never betrayed me and we were friends and work associates before we were lovers. We shared a history before we made a commitment to each other.

It took me a good 5 years to process the loss. The death of the relationship. I held on to all kinds of fantasies over those years... still do on occassion but less and less. I am good being single. There is a lot of social pressure to be hooked up with someone. I ignored that pressure through to my late 30's and I can do it again now in my 50's and beyond. Single people can be happy too. Marriage is hard. Not everyone can do it well.

Everyday is a blessing and rejoice in the blessings everyday.