I couldn't decide if I wanted to post this issue here, but it keeps bothering me, so I thought I'd bounce it off you guys.

There's a girl who came in to the program just before me, and we hit it off and became fast best friends. Then she met a guy.....at first I was a little put off by this, and fearful, because all my girlfriends of the past have ended up ditching me the second a guy comes into the picture. I was also concerned about her program. We talked at lengths about things, and cleared the air, and I was honest about the fact that I didn't want to hang out with them as a couple because I was afraid I'd end up wanting that for myself, and because they do things that are expensive. For awhile it was fine, we talked on the phone all the time, hung out just us sometimes, she still went to a lot of meetings. She was going to Chicago over Labor Day weekend and I was gonna take her to the airport, but then the boyfriend did it. Since she got back, she never calls. I can't call her cell phone because it's still a long distance number, but I can text her. So she says, "text me anytime and I'll call you back!" Because she's never home anymore. But half the time when I text her, I don't hear from her, and I know she's with her boyfriend so I feel akward wanting to talk. And she rarely calls me! So I feel like, if she wanted to talk, she could call too. Why do I always have to be the one to call her? When she sees me at meetings, rare anymore, she only goes to the ones he goes to, she can hardly look me in the eye. And they've started working out all the time together. About a month before September 15, I told her what a rough day that was going to be for me, and that she was booked for that day, which she agreed to. So after the meeting on the 15th, she says she's going to work out. She called me that morning and left a message telling me to have a good day, and I talked about it in the meeting, so she knew what day it was. Another friend of mine was going to dinner with me, and we asked her if she wanted to go, but of course she had to go work out. I've done many a 4th step on this, and I know it's my fear that I'm loosing her. But at the same time, I just want her to leave me alone at meetings if she's not gonna be there for me as a best friend. I asked my sponser if I should talk to her about this and she asked me what my motives would be in talking to her about it. All I can come up with is that I've accepted the fact that relationships change best friend relationships. I want to move on. I don't feel like I have a best friend at the moment. I feel like I want to tell her that our "best friendship" is over, that she's just an acquaintance to me now. And I'm fine with that, but I want her to quit telling me to "text her anytime". So...whatever you got out of that....just need some experience strength and hope. Or tell me I'm being a bad person, whatever, haha!

Thanks,
Rayna