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Apr 12, 2010, 12:12 AM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: So Cal
Posts: 3,342
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I am no expert, but take it from someone who has personally lived through something similar...
This sounds like covert sexual abuse.
I am very concerned with what you have written here. What concerns me the most is that YOU KNOW that what your father is doing is not appropriate behavior and YOU KNOW that it makes you very uncomfortable, yet you still say that you only wear attractive clothing in your home around your father and that you are not interested in changing this behavior.
I'm AM NOT saying this is your fault or your responsibility. IT'S NOT!! However, you know this isn't right and you need to protect yourself. When I hear you say that you know he is looking at you when you bend over yet you attempt to justify and diminish his bad behavior, this says to me that you have lost your drive of self preservation. This is very dangerous. Not just for you, but for your sister as well.
It sounds as if your father has been "grooming" you for sometime on in a covert manner and now he is taking his behavior to a worse level. If he is doing this to you, he WILL do it to your sister, if he isn't already.
You are not at fault. You have done nothing wrong. You don't deserve this treatment from him.
Does your mother see this happening? Is she in the picture? She may see it, but be in denial.
By taking the step to post you are being very strong and very brave. It is the first step in protecting yourself.
You NEED to tell someone about this. Someone who is in a position to help you. Maybe a friends mother or father, or a school teacher or guidance counselor, your doctor, even the police.
I know this is probably very uncomfortable for you and your most likely scared...a lot. I know I was. PLEASE be more mindful about how you dress around your father. Like I said...it is NOT your fault...it's just that if you know he is sick in this way and this is how he reacts to you, I suggest you do what you can to not encourage his inappropriate behavior for your own safety.
Tell someone who can help. You can't get through this alone. We'll all be here for you...but you need to be here for yourself too. 
Here's a link with some info:
http://ezinearticles.com/?Sexual-Abu...orms&id=382309
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