Thanks, Sunrise and Farmergirl, for your input on the guessing thing with my T. I can sort of see the value of that position, if I were an unusually inexpressive client, or someone in massive denial, or a child who had trouble speaking -- a recent victim of trauma, etc. I just think it's a cop-out on his part after seven months. I'm not sitting there rocking with my thumb in my mouth. I give him all kinds of information.

If he's still baffled by me, then I suppose that's fair. But I'm wondering why he doesn't just ask me what's up in that case? I'm more than willing to keep talking. It's all we do in there. After this much time, he shouldn't still be guessing: he should get me by now, or he should be ASKING me for clarification. And voila! No more need to guess! Maybe he doesn't realize it (although I've mentioned it to him), but his statement that he's guessing at me makes me feel like:

1) he's professionally less than competent.
2) I'm some unusually intractable case.

It's insulting and infuriating. I wonder -- if I told him he was a real a$$hole, would he have to guess at that too? "Hm, she just called me an a$$shole. Could she be upset? Must probe further..."

OMG about your current T, Sunrise!! That's pretty awful. It would be way weird for him to go into detail around the difference between certain kinds of porn in session, even if you were a man. Look, I'm a woman and I know the difference between those two publications -- one's pretty shamelessly explicit, and the other tries to be tasteful (which doesn't quite work either, for my money). So what? What does he think you are, a three-year old he has to explain this to? And what does it reveal about him -- that he's a consumer of porn? How are you supposed to assimilate that? It's way too much information, and opens a window on him that's not necessary or helpful for you. It's just creepy and condescending!