I mean yeah it took my mom YEARS to get over what my dad did to her. We all were still hearing my dad screaming at us for a while after he left (which is sort of like PTSD). He wasnt even there and we could still hear him screaming.

and today she says to me after I get pissed over the fact that people are basically pressuring me to talk to my dad "dont do anything stupid Sophia" meaning "dont cut off contact with your father you might regret it later"

She must be blocking things. I know I do whenever I visit my dad (which is infrequent).

I'm going to have to think about this because I deeply resent having to go and have Christmas with my dad's family and act like everything is ok when it's not. What my dad did was unacceptable and people want to act like it never happened.

Why do they keep wanting to create a faccade to make my dad look good when he's not? Why do they "protect" him? Loyalties. Family loyalties I guess.

Well I dont know about you but some things just...you can forgive but you cannot forget.