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Apr 12, 2010, 08:41 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: So Cal
Posts: 3,342
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Sophia...
My Sperm Donor is Sociopathic as well. He shares several of the traits you wrote about yours.
I know it is hard. Please remember that your family loves you, but they have been taken by your father in one way or another as well. They are, in their own way, sick for thinking it is right to expect you to be anywhere near him. I constantly struggle with protecting myself from my father. He can be so sweet and seem so loving when he wants to...and he just reels you in and once he knows he's got you close enough he knows he can begin to break you down all over again. They love that game, and what makes them "love" us is the fact that we will continually come back for more which feeds them and allows them to feel more powerful.
A couple months ago, my dad contacted me by email. He is not allowed to have my phone number or my home address, though he probably has found it online. But he told me that he was reworking his retirement fund and that if I would give him my social security number he would put me as beneficiary. I said "No Thanks". As far as I'm concerned...he can leave it to his dog. My family thinks I'm crazy, but then I think back to a few years ago when he got remarried. He actually asked me if I would be a surrogate mother for him and his new wife!!  Can you imagine...a father asking his daughter to carry and give birth to his child for him and his wife? Disgusting!!
I say stay away. Your inner self is smart and is telling you this for a reason. With time to grow inside and some therapy to help you along the way, maybe someday you'll be able to let him into your life, but you need to be sure you will be strong enough to recognize when he is playing you and you are in danger.
Take good care. 
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