Kindergirl, I am sorry that things are really hard for you.

Yes it is exhausting caring for a mother at the end stage...... cos you never really know when it will happen. Even the doctors/nurses get it wrong. So try and get as much rest as you can. Lean on others and talk in here cos it does help.

Last year four weeks before my mother passed, I was talking with my p'doc about it, never knowing how close the end really was. She had been in a nursing home for years. Yes I have DID too. I was really tired. But near the end I got to do a couple of things for my Mum that I never thought I could/would be able to do.

As hard as it is, know that we care. Take each day as it comes. Talk to her carers as they will understand you too. And rest. Take breaks like Echoes said.

Would it help you to spend time with her? I found that putting music on that Mum liked was good for us both. We both sang songs that had been part of our life and my Dad's life.

Peace be unto you both..........