thanks everyone... i guess i just needed to know he wasnt right about EVERYTHING... I really know better than to get off my meds but that is something I would be very easily pursuaded to do. But your comments helped reiterate that its a BAD IDEA... I am on meds for bipolar not anxiety btw... doc took me off anxiety meds cause they are so bad for you in the long term. also looking for tdoc think i may have found one but have to scrape up the money to see her. once i do start seeing her though i will definatley bring up father-in-law to her and see if she can help me learn to be assertive around him. thanks again everyone!