This is what has happened to me. Not now as I have come to acceptance. It has been over 16 years though.
Not helpful that your neighbor is in trouble too.
I don't have any advice but what has helped in acceptance is what my sister,who has ms, says "It is what it is."
This does help me when circumstances and disasters happen. And boy have we had the hits over and over again.
My daughter and family live 3,000 miles away. My 17 year old grandson is engaged and a convicted felon, I have kidney disease...I can go on and on.
It isn't fair, why me? No clue but I am a woman of faith and have to trust this will turnout for good.
pm me anytime