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I'm SO sorry this is long but I desperately need some advice today!
My ex is supposed to come over tomorrow at 11:00am so we can work on some papers for our divorce (we need to finish the financial papers and the marriage settlement agreement, so I can't file these until he signs them). I sent him a text to set this up 5 days ago. He said it would work fine (he is out of work and spends up to 16 hours a day online with some girl from another country that he's never met in real life, so it's not like he has anything else to do).
We separated in 2003 but we were still friends until this January; he met that girl last August and she basically started telling him how to live his life (he's almost 46 and she is 25 btw). She told him that she didn't want him to be friends with me since I was his ex (although she still lives with her husband). This was one of the main reasons we stopped being friends; he started cancelling plans with me or he would show up over an hour late. That's the really short version LOL.
One of the things that has always bothered me (and triggers my anxiety and depression) is that I always had to remind him of everything. And I mean EVERYTHING!! But I am more triggered when I DO remind him and he shows up late anyhow. So my question is...do I text him today to remind him that he is supposed to come over tomorrow, or just wait and see if he actually shows up on his own? I'm conflicted on this. I kind of want to remind him because I want to get this done asap, because we will get a hearing date for the divorce when we file this set of papers. But I am SO tired of having to be his reminder service. It makes me really f***ing mad to have to remind a grown man to keep his word and show up when he says he will. So if I do remind him today, I will be annoyed all day that I didn't stand my ground and stop acting like his mommy, and then worry all night that he will forget or show up late anyhow. If I don't remind him, I'll worry all day and night that he has forgotten it completely.
I am honestly stuck on this, please, please, PLEASE help me! Do I remind him or not? What is your opinion?
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From the movie The Hours: "If I were thinking clearly, Leonard, I would tell you that I wrestle alone in the dark, in the deep dark, and that only I can know. Only I can understand my condition. You live with the threat, you tell me you live with the threat of my extinction. Leonard, I live with it too."
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