Thanks everyone!!
I liked the confirmation idea and thanks for the little reminder to tell myself as well! I sent him a text: I am confirming that you will be here tomorrow at 11 for papers please reply asap thanks. That's one of the other things...he "forgets" to reply to texts or to return phone calls, and he won't answer the phone during the day because that girl doesn't want him to talk on the phone when he "should" be online with her...but if he wants to let her control his life it's his decision I guess.
Thanks again...I'll let you know what happens!
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From the movie The Hours: "If I were thinking clearly, Leonard, I would tell you that I wrestle alone in the dark, in the deep dark, and that only I can know. Only I can understand my condition. You live with the threat, you tell me you live with the threat of my extinction. Leonard, I live with it too."