well, maybe you could find other stuff to do with him to occupy time since doing him will hurt him. like, maybe by doing stuff like seeing movies, going out to eat, or maybe even bowling to keep you from thinking about having sex with him. if bringing sex into a relationship will only bring pain, you should try and hold off from it until youre ready without any kind of dillema. you could also tell him how you feel so he understands [if he dont already]

it sucks that the whole rape happened to you& its causing you problems. i dont know when it happend or how or who, but no one should have to live with that mental scar. if you ever need someone to talk to, im here(:
>>Danni