Thank you for your reply Possum. We live in different countries, and I have been to see her. The relationship is not easy due to her lifetime alcoholism. I harbour a lot of bitterness. I read a quote recently written by a woman who had a difficult childhood. She said, "I cannot forgive or embrace my mother, yet nor can I abandon her." That is how I feel. I have just found out that she is starting to slip into a coma, so I dont think it will be long now.